As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. If you obey my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have obeyed my Father's commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete. My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.
To remain in Christ is to obey His commandments. The result is joy. (Boy, could I use some of that today.)
The command: "Love each other as I have loved you"...even to lay down one's life. Well, that cetainly puts selfishness in the backseat. It's one thing to love your family like that; it's another to love just all others like that. (Wonder how I will do today?)